I decided from a young child not to bother even getting a dog. In surrounded by people who had dogs dogs to me seem like having a 5-year-old human child that never grows up for two decades.
We crate trained our dog said she was a puppy. She would have no issues in the crate for 9 to 10 months of her life and then all of a sudden she has harmed herself chewing through two metal crates she developed extreme separation anxiety. She always had some of it like she would bark when she heard us coming home, but this is another level a very difficult puzzle to figure out.
I had a cavalier King Charles spaniel – very prone to separation anxiety and from the week I brought her home, I’d just step out the door for a short time with no words. Come back in and carry on. Increased this over time and one day I went out for an hour and she was snoring when I got back – and remained asleep. I used a motion camera to see how she behaved and she just settled after I left. She’d know my work clothes and bag and when she seen me ready to go would just take herself off to her bed. She was brilliant. It’s so hard to do when they’re tiny and cute but not making a fuss when leaving was key.
I need help badly. I walk my dog before I leave to work, then I kennel her and leave calmly but as I leave she cries. I came home today and she tore a piece of metal from the kennel. Her tooth is chipped and her nail was bleeding. I’m stressing out.
When I kennel her while I’m home she is fine and calm
I’m calm my dogs are well trained both do amazing in crates but my one dog struggle in a down stay or sit stay he will lay there and wine or get up before I brake him yes I take his leash and place him back but then he ends up doing it over and over every 5-10 minutes he brakes it
We’ve got a 12 week old Golden Retriever, had him for a week now. He’s fantastic in his crate. When we leave for work, we use the hide mat with his food in to keep him occupied whilst we back up slowly and leave the house quietly. Just got a puppy cam now to see if hes content without us
I tell my dog, regardless how long I’ll be gone, the same phrase in a firm but kind tone. I always say “hold down the fort” and then close the door. Entirely guess work on my behalf but it calmed him down over time. I feel like that phrase would prepare him to expect me to be absent for long periods of time (to work my job and go to the gym). He’s a German Shepard if that matters to anyone’s curiosity. Now it feels wrong leaving without saying it, he even looks for me to say it.
My Schnauzer pup actually doesn’t cry anymore when I leave the house because I’m guessing she knows I’m leaving the house because she can see me walk out the door. But when I leave the room, she loses her ever loving mind! Crying, whimpering, etc. Many times, the kids are here so they have to hold her back and keep her entertained while I go potty and she’ll chill out until I return. She’s 3 months old and I’ve been trying to wait out the crying until I return so that she doesn’t think I’m returning because she’s crying and whimpering. But it goes on so long sometimes.
Hey, our dog is crate trained very well but the pandemic screwed him all up. So when someone gets car keys or their purse, or even just feels anxious about going to school or work he can sense that. We taught him place and that works, yet sometimes all he does it bark at you not wanting to be left behind. I was wondering if you had any tips, thanks!❤❤
Scamp can hear me silently putting on a pair of socks – there is nothing I can do to keep him calm. So frustrating positive reinforcement DOES NOT WORK on my Collie!!!!!!!!!!
I have an anxious dog, to the point where the vet is recommending euthanasia if the new meds don't have more of an effect soon (switched her from Fluoxetin last year). 😢😢😢😢😢 But she doesn't have separation anxiety. Couldn't care less if we leave.
I work for a group home. They got a dog about 6 months ago. He was small. I tried.. For months.. To get them to get a proper crate. he was to big for the one that he had. No one listened. Now.. We have a dog that will bark and bark and bark when put in the crate. Considering at night thats where hes supposed to be, it makes things difficult. Right now I can hear his anxious panting. idk how I could help this. I dont know if I even can. The fact that a BORDER COLLIE POODLE mix was given to people who have no idea how to train a dog and no motivation to take the dog out is beyond me. A small yapper would have been a better option -_-
Why does crate training stop seperation anxiety? My dog doesn't do anything like chewing or causing damage while I'm gone, he barks and howls. Wouldn't he still be able to do that in a crate?
My puppy is like 2 months old? I’m not sure she’s lapping but mostly milk she can’t eat food as yet, if I turn around or I’m not facing her she cries and come to lay on my feet. She cries all night because she’s not in my room, she follows me everywhere and cries if I’m not in her line of sight I can’t take it I feel so bad and don’t know how to help her
My dog is crate trained, 3.5 months old, never ever greet him after coming back home and never talked to him before leaving the home but still he has seperation anxiety. Now we are trying to give him treats in the crate before we left, still not working. And plus we make sure we open the main door of the house when he is not barking
What if your dog tries to scratch and eat her way out of the crate. Poor baby has scratches on her face. it's my ex husbands dog and I just feel so so bad for her 😭
Dude, I'm calm but my GSD mix panics if I put on slippers. He's velcro…..bathroom trips include him, pumping gas includes him….3 ft is too far for me to be away. BTW, he's crate trained. He's just too smart. Move my purse, panic. Move keys, panic attack. Grab socks, omg mom is leaving. It's funny not funny. I've had him since he was 10 weeks. It's insane but also funny. He's not destructive but sounds like an ambulance for at least 5 minutes after I leave. I live inan rv, crates don't fit now. I throw treats and bolt. It works but is a pain in my a$$
i figured getting another dog helped so i ended up with 4 3 labs 1 german shep haha no sep anxiety though i have a dog cam and they all get on a tad too well ……. destruction is 1 word
It’s important also to not make a big deal/fuss of coming back either-especially when they are young and training, also start by leaving and returning for short periods and gradually build up the time. Basically teaching the dog that humans come and go a lot and its really no big deal!
My dogs crate trained themselves pretty much. When I got the crate I just left it open and didn’t even ask them to get in. Pretty soon my lab was taking her naps in there. She got a new brother a couple years ago and when he saw me getting dressed he just got in the crate and she started following him in. When I am ready to leave I shut the crate door. Tell them how good they are and that I love them all in a very calm manner. I rarely if ever have to tell them to get in the crate. They love it and are proud of themselves for doing something they know I’m going to want before I ask.
My girlie already had attachment issues when i picked her and her sister up from the litter. They were the last two and the lady needed them to find homes and my Nala was the calmest with me of all the people that had tried to pick her, so she took it as a sign that i should keep the puppy lol She said of all the litters she's had, Nala was the one that had gotten so attached.
At the time, i was renting a room and my roommates also had dogs so no one ever noticed her displaying signs of separation anxiety. They also had a security camera installed, and all the dogs, including nala, were aware when someone left but would go to the backyard to play and i guess that helped with relieving stress.
But I've moved since then ive noticed nala get extremely sad when i leave for work. I do what the video here says and just ignore her and leave but i have been told that nala doesn't stop crying for about 10 minutes after i leave and when they try to get her to play or go to the backyard, she's a stubborn little girl and hides in my room, refuses to go play with the other dogs until after shes done crying.
Ive tried giving her a treat to distract her but after a few days she would give me sad puppy eyes when she saw a an incoming treat so i stopped doing that. She has an idea of what my work uniform is, so whenever i put my uniform on or something that she thinks resembles my uniform, she begins to give me a sad face but is quiet.
For now, what seems to be working is putting her in he backyard when i leave but once she's back inside, she gets stressed when she realizes I'm no there, so im cant do that because now she's refusing to go to the backyard or waits at the door to make sure we dont close it.
The previous house i lived at had a doggie door and the current house does not, so I'm guessing thats part of the problem? I know she misses the old house, as she would take me to it during our walks (same neighlborhood) in the beginning. Sometimes we visit them, but i wish she wasnt so sad when i leave. Even if im outside to get something from my car, she gets upset. Their garage is not connected to the house, so we have to step out to do it, and nala gets upset then, as well. She's only pleased if i let her accompany me.
Not sure if she's traumatized by leaving her first human mom and then moving houses?
What if you're leaving when they're asleep and they still howl the house down when you're going out to a place that doesn't allow dogs like work places?
I adopted a 5 yr old 70 lbs pit bull terrier with major separation anxiety. Idk what happened to her the first 4 years of her life but I do know the last year of her life she was with a family that adopted her from the shelter and then abandoned her in a home. Anytime I go upstairs and leave her downstairs she claws at the door, causing damage to the frame. I put her in a temporary collapsible kennel and she just unhooked one of the walls. She will try anything to get to me/ other people because she is scared of being left alone… any tips to help with this? I’ve only had her a few days and I know that we need to build up that trust that I will always come back but I’m trying to save further damage from being done XD
Edit: she also isn’t really into toys/bones, honestly don’t know if she’s had one before. She loves treats and that’s how I coax her into her kennel cause she is not kennel trained but those only last so long. I tried giving her a shirt that smelled like me and she wasn’t that interested in it.
I never crate trained my previous dog and he never had seperation anxiety. For 13 years he was fine. Just adooted a 3 year old dog who is crate trained, and she has really bad seperation anxiety. So I dont believe that part to be true.
If I say any of these words "bye, key, car, store, work, outside" my dog starts following me around as soon as I start getting ready like combing my hair. Omg. I just start wearing my coat. She wants it off. Sometimes she runs away with my shoe. I don't know how I can help her overcome this anxiety.
I’m crate training him but it seems like right at bed time he starts screaming and howling I make sure he has relieved himself and eaten. I’m just stressing at night because I get noise complaints from the neighbors. He was fine the first week now it’s going on week three and he has started again what do I do now
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I decided from a young child not to bother even getting a dog. In surrounded by people who had dogs dogs to me seem like having a 5-year-old human child that never grows up for two decades.
You should really wear a muzzle! You give others anxiety with your dramatic energy. Crate training might help you to stay calm.
We crate trained our dog said she was a puppy. She would have no issues in the crate for 9 to 10 months of her life and then all of a sudden she has harmed herself chewing through two metal crates she developed extreme separation anxiety. She always had some of it like she would bark when she heard us coming home, but this is another level a very difficult puzzle to figure out.
My puppy falls asleep but starts crying once awake if im not in the room just picked her up coupple days ago shes about 10 weeks old
His seperation anxiety is off the charts today
I had a cavalier King Charles spaniel – very prone to separation anxiety and from the week I brought her home, I’d just step out the door for a short time with no words. Come back in and carry on. Increased this over time and one day I went out for an hour and she was snoring when I got back – and remained asleep. I used a motion camera to see how she behaved and she just settled after I left. She’d know my work clothes and bag and when she seen me ready to go would just take herself off to her bed. She was brilliant. It’s so hard to do when they’re tiny and cute but not making a fuss when leaving was key.
I need help badly.
I walk my dog before I leave to work, then I kennel her and leave calmly but as I leave she cries.
I came home today and she tore a piece of metal from the kennel. Her tooth is chipped and her nail was bleeding. I’m stressing out.
When I kennel her while I’m home she is fine and calm
I’m calm my dogs are well trained both do amazing in crates but my one dog struggle in a down stay or sit stay he will lay there and wine or get up before I brake him yes I take his leash and place him back but then he ends up doing it over and over every 5-10 minutes he brakes it
We’ve got a 12 week old Golden Retriever, had him for a week now. He’s fantastic in his crate. When we leave for work, we use the hide mat with his food in to keep him occupied whilst we back up slowly and leave the house quietly. Just got a puppy cam now to see if hes content without us
Should you have the crate in your bedroom while you sleep?
Why does crate training help with anxiety? I just adopted a dog a few days ago who needs more structure than my old girl who is just chill.
I tell my dog, regardless how long I’ll be gone, the same phrase in a firm but kind tone. I always say “hold down the fort” and then close the door. Entirely guess work on my behalf but it calmed him down over time. I feel like that phrase would prepare him to expect me to be absent for long periods of time (to work my job and go to the gym). He’s a German Shepard if that matters to anyone’s curiosity. Now it feels wrong leaving without saying it, he even looks for me to say it.
My Schnauzer pup actually doesn’t cry anymore when I leave the house because I’m guessing she knows I’m leaving the house because she can see me walk out the door. But when I leave the room, she loses her ever loving mind! Crying, whimpering, etc. Many times, the kids are here so they have to hold her back and keep her entertained while I go potty and she’ll chill out until I return. She’s 3 months old and I’ve been trying to wait out the crying until I return so that she doesn’t think I’m returning because she’s crying and whimpering. But it goes on so long sometimes.
Too late 😭 She won't calm down the entire time I'm gone.
Hey, our dog is crate trained very well but the pandemic screwed him all up. So when someone gets car keys or their purse, or even just feels anxious about going to school or work he can sense that. We taught him place and that works, yet sometimes all he does it bark at you not wanting to be left behind. I was wondering if you had any tips, thanks!❤❤
Thanks for tour help 🎉🎉
sorry but once our family dogs see we are putting or jackets and shoes on he already starts walking to the door
Scamp can hear me silently putting on a pair of socks – there is nothing I can do to keep him calm. So frustrating positive reinforcement DOES NOT WORK on my Collie!!!!!!!!!!
My problem is not leaving them in their own home it's leaving them with a stranger (such as the vet).
I thought the last sentence will end – Don’t go anywhere. 😂
I have an anxious dog, to the point where the vet is recommending euthanasia if the new meds don't have more of an effect soon (switched her from Fluoxetin last year). 😢😢😢😢😢 But she doesn't have separation anxiety. Couldn't care less if we leave.
I work for a group home. They got a dog about 6 months ago. He was small. I tried.. For months.. To get them to get a proper crate. he was to big for the one that he had. No one listened. Now.. We have a dog that will bark and bark and bark when put in the crate. Considering at night thats where hes supposed to be, it makes things difficult. Right now I can hear his anxious panting. idk how I could help this. I dont know if I even can. The fact that a BORDER COLLIE POODLE mix was given to people who have no idea how to train a dog and no motivation to take the dog out is beyond me. A small yapper would have been a better option -_-
Why does crate training stop seperation anxiety? My dog doesn't do anything like chewing or causing damage while I'm gone, he barks and howls. Wouldn't he still be able to do that in a crate?
My puppy is like 2 months old? I’m not sure she’s lapping but mostly milk she can’t eat food as yet, if I turn around or I’m not facing her she cries and come to lay on my feet. She cries all night because she’s not in my room, she follows me everywhere and cries if I’m not in her line of sight I can’t take it I feel so bad and don’t know how to help her
My dog is crate trained, 3.5 months old, never ever greet him after coming back home and never talked to him before leaving the home but still he has seperation anxiety. Now we are trying to give him treats in the crate before we left, still not working. And plus we make sure we open the main door of the house when he is not barking
What if your dog tries to scratch and eat her way out of the crate. Poor baby has scratches on her face. it's my ex husbands dog and I just feel so so bad for her 😭
My dog keeps on crying and howling for hours, when I have here outside by herself how do I stop her from howling and crying, when she is out alone
Dude, I'm calm but my GSD mix panics if I put on slippers. He's velcro…..bathroom trips include him, pumping gas includes him….3 ft is too far for me to be away. BTW, he's crate trained. He's just too smart. Move my purse, panic. Move keys, panic attack. Grab socks, omg mom is leaving. It's funny not funny. I've had him since he was 10 weeks. It's insane but also funny. He's not destructive but sounds like an ambulance for at least 5 minutes after I leave. I live inan rv, crates don't fit now. I throw treats and bolt. It works but is a pain in my a$$
It's blue balls for dogs 😂
My dog has learned signs that were leaving such as my mom, putting on her coat or all of us gathering in the area of the door at the same time
i’d love to see you as a Rapper in Los Angeles, you got the voice moves kinda reminds me house of pain
Absolutely
i figured getting another dog helped so i ended up with 4 3 labs 1 german shep haha no sep anxiety though i have a dog cam and they all get on a tad too well ……. destruction is 1 word
Step one, get a well bred dog with an even temperment. Theres only so much you can do when your dogs a genetic disaster
My dog is crate trained but she still struggles when i lesve the house
It’s important also to not make a big deal/fuss of coming back either-especially when they are young and training, also start by leaving and returning for short periods and gradually build up the time. Basically teaching the dog that humans come and go a lot and its really no big deal!
My dogs crate trained themselves pretty much. When I got the crate I just left it open and didn’t even ask them to get in. Pretty soon my lab was taking her naps in there. She got a new brother a couple years ago and when he saw me getting dressed he just got in the crate and she started following him in. When I am ready to leave I shut the crate door. Tell them how good they are and that I love them all in a very calm manner. I rarely if ever have to tell them to get in the crate. They love it and are proud of themselves for doing something they know I’m going to want before I ask.
My girlie already had attachment issues when i picked her and her sister up from the litter. They were the last two and the lady needed them to find homes and my Nala was the calmest with me of all the people that had tried to pick her, so she took it as a sign that i should keep the puppy lol She said of all the litters she's had, Nala was the one that had gotten so attached.
At the time, i was renting a room and my roommates also had dogs so no one ever noticed her displaying signs of separation anxiety. They also had a security camera installed, and all the dogs, including nala, were aware when someone left but would go to the backyard to play and i guess that helped with relieving stress.
But I've moved since then ive noticed nala get extremely sad when i leave for work. I do what the video here says and just ignore her and leave but i have been told that nala doesn't stop crying for about 10 minutes after i leave and when they try to get her to play or go to the backyard, she's a stubborn little girl and hides in my room, refuses to go play with the other dogs until after shes done crying.
Ive tried giving her a treat to distract her but after a few days she would give me sad puppy eyes when she saw a an incoming treat so i stopped doing that. She has an idea of what my work uniform is, so whenever i put my uniform on or something that she thinks resembles my uniform, she begins to give me a sad face but is quiet.
For now, what seems to be working is putting her in he backyard when i leave but once she's back inside, she gets stressed when she realizes I'm no there, so im cant do that because now she's refusing to go to the backyard or waits at the door to make sure we dont close it.
The previous house i lived at had a doggie door and the current house does not, so I'm guessing thats part of the problem? I know she misses the old house, as she would take me to it during our walks (same neighlborhood) in the beginning. Sometimes we visit them, but i wish she wasnt so sad when i leave. Even if im outside to get something from my car, she gets upset. Their garage is not connected to the house, so we have to step out to do it, and nala gets upset then, as well. She's only pleased if i let her accompany me.
Not sure if she's traumatized by leaving her first human mom and then moving houses?
What if you're leaving when they're asleep and they still howl the house down when you're going out to a place that doesn't allow dogs like work places?
I adopted a 5 yr old 70 lbs pit bull terrier with major separation anxiety. Idk what happened to her the first 4 years of her life but I do know the last year of her life she was with a family that adopted her from the shelter and then abandoned her in a home. Anytime I go upstairs and leave her downstairs she claws at the door, causing damage to the frame. I put her in a temporary collapsible kennel and she just unhooked one of the walls. She will try anything to get to me/ other people because she is scared of being left alone… any tips to help with this? I’ve only had her a few days and I know that we need to build up that trust that I will always come back but I’m trying to save further damage from being done XD
Edit: she also isn’t really into toys/bones, honestly don’t know if she’s had one before. She loves treats and that’s how I coax her into her kennel cause she is not kennel trained but those only last so long. I tried giving her a shirt that smelled like me and she wasn’t that interested in it.
I never crate trained my previous dog and he never had seperation anxiety. For 13 years he was fine. Just adooted a 3 year old dog who is crate trained, and she has really bad seperation anxiety. So I dont believe that part to be true.
My dog's chill, I'm the one with the separation anxiety 😂
I don’t build them up though lol
If I say any of these words "bye, key, car, store, work, outside" my dog starts following me around as soon as I start getting ready like combing my hair. Omg. I just start wearing my coat. She wants it off. Sometimes she runs away with my shoe. I don't know how I can help her overcome this anxiety.
I’m crate training him but it seems like right at bed time he starts screaming and howling I make sure he has relieved himself and eaten. I’m just stressing at night because I get noise complaints from the neighbors. He was fine the first week now it’s going on week three and he has started again what do I do now
Facts!! I will forever be proud and thankful to myself for crate training my puppy. Best thing you can do for your puppy. Seriously !
Step 1: Quit your job
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